My baby is damn pro! lol.. he got full marks for maths! we were saying how can someone get fullmarks! no careless mistakes at all? O.o

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the other day i went to Beauty World shopping centre while waiting for the bank. lol. Its one of the place i spent my childhood days at k. The place is still pretty much the same esp the candy shop i used to visit. hehe. i came across the book fair they had and bought this!

The famous - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.



this book is great i must say! it has amazed me quite a bit just from the first few chapters...

In chapter 2

The most frequently expressed complaint woman have about men is that men don't listen. Either a man completely ignore her when she speaks to him, or he listens for a few beats, assesses what is bothering her and then proudly puts on his Mr. Fix-it cap and offers her a solution to make her feel better. He is confused when she does not appreciate this gesture of love. No matter how many times she tells him that he's not listening, he does not get it and keeps doing the same thing. She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions.

The most frequently expressed omplaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change them. When a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She forms a home-improvement committee, and he becomes her primary focus. No matter how much he resists her help, she persists-waiting for any opportunity to help him or tell him what to do. she thinks she's nuturing him, while he feels he's being controlled. Instead, he wants her acceptance.

Life on Mars

- A man's sense of self is defined thru his ability to acheive results
- To Offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
- However, if he truly does need help, then it is a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he will find someone he respects and then talk about it.
- This is the reason why when a woman innocently shares upset feelings or explores out loud the problems of her day, men always mistakenly assumes she is looking for some expert advice.

Life on Venus

-A woman's sense of self is defined thru her feelngs and quality of her reltionships.
-On venus it is a sign of caring to give advice and suggestions.
-Offering advice and constructive criticism is an act of love.
- Many times a woman just wants to share her feelings a bout her day, and her husband, thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her probems.

WRONG eg:
Mary comes hom from an exhausting day. She wants and needs to share her feelings about the day.

Mary: "There is so much to do; I don't have any time for myself."
Tom: "You should quit ur job you don't have o work so hard. find something you like to do."
Mary: "But i like my job. They just expect me to change everything at a moment's notice."
Tom : "Don't listen to them. Just do what you can do."
Mary: "I am! i can't believe i completely forgot to call my anunt today."
Tom: "don't worry, she will understand."
Mary: "Do you know what she is going thru? she needs me."
Tom: "you worry too much, that's why u are unhappy."
Mary: " i am not always unhappy. can't you just listen to me?"
Tom: "I am listening"
Mary: " why do i even bother?"

CORRECT EG:
Tom had no idea what just listening with empathy to Mary express her feelings would bring her tremendous relief and fulfillment. When Tom Hears about Venusians and how much they needed to talk, he gradually learned how to listen.

Mary: "Theres is so much to do. I have no time for me."
Tom takes a deep breath, relaxes on the exhale, and says, " Humph, sounds like you had a hard day."
Mary: "They expect me to change everything at a moment's notice. i don't know what to do."
Tom pauses and hen says: "Hmmm."
Mary: " I even forgot to call my Aunt"
Tom: " Oh No."
Mary: " She needs me so much right now. I feel so bad."
Tom :" You are such a loving person. Come here, let me give you a hug."
Tom gives Mary a hug and she relaxes in his arms aith a big sigh of relief.

A woman greatly appreciates Mr. Fix-it. as long as he doesn't come out when she is upset. Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about her problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own. She does not need to be fixed.

So Now you know why the gals are unhappy! +)